The bus was late. Not just late, it disappeared. I heard the same stories of late and non-existent buses from everyone on all the routes. (SHOUT OUT – transit drivers do a great job in stupidly tough circumstances. When are we going to realize that free transit is the best thing for any city? Oh and include in that a several-times-a-day disinfecting and cleaning schedule.)
Late buses don’t seem all that important anymore.
Four cases confirmed, the university closing and moving to online classes, food services laying off people after catering cancellations pour in, so, so, many artist friends report canceled concerts, art shows, fundraiser parties, and other self-employed friends who help supply and support those events share their worry about canceled contracts.
(You already know about all the big ones like the NHL and the way arenas dumped all their low-end employees. See, they’re just doing it for (as a friend posted) shits and giggles to decompress after their full-time jobs. They don’t need the money. The players still get paid of course. OMG, how would they manage if they had to do without a paycheque?)
Schools are closing! But not for another week. Because – well. I’m not sure why. Just because.
I work at the library. Not going to talk about it because – well, again, just because. Only to say that we’re starting to feel the stress. We see the families who come to the library because that’s the only place they can access for free, and it’s such a nice environment after cramped, noisy, falling apart apartments. We see the kids doing their work there because they don’t have internet at home, and maybe they don’t want to risk taking books home then forgetting to get them back in time. I am so grateful that I have a good job.
Throughout so much of my life, while I was married for way too long to someone whose emptiness could never be filled, someone who, over and over again, took what I had just because I had it, who spent money as if he had a giant trust fund because money is a river he said whenever he wanted something, and you can’t dam it up, throughout those dismal decades, I could not have kept our children fed and clothed, could not have paid for a place to live if this pandemic had happened then.
I am so grateful for where I am now. But I shiver and feel the clench of fear in my gut each time I think of families in those desperate circumstances. Trauma lasts a long time.
I know from experience (the bitter kind, turned sweet) that meditation is my go-to medication, and without it, the trauma will take over, bitter as f, and pack away all the thinking parts of my brain. So meditation is, thank goodness (goonness, I typoed. I like that.), back in my life to lead me through this crazy world.
My son is working long, long hours outside in the cold. I’m not too worried because he has excellent hygiene, and being outside in the fresh air is a good way to stay away from nasty viruses of all kinds. But no sleep and long hours and cold, freezing cold….He has a bit of something that does seem to be no more than his usual sinus and head cold. He has a bit of a smoker’s cough. I’m going to pick up some more immune-boosting supplements and Nyquil after work.
The Rexall across the street is out of things I didn’t plan to buy anyway: face masks, hand sanitizer, and alcohol. I didn’t check the tp situation, but I do need paper towels. Wasteful, yes. One more ethical conviction that fell in the face of real life.
I’ve given in to the lure of paper towels and Swiffer, but they don’t completely rule me, not yet. Instead of fitting up the Swiffer mop with its own cleaning pads, I use paper towels to sweep and the cleaning pads for a quick hand scrub of the bathroom. Can you tell I sometimes feel guilty about it? Hardly the act of an environmentalist.
Then I think of the years, decades, when hardly a disposable anything crossed my threshold and came through my doorway. Ferry trips from Salt Spring to Vancouver Island meant taking cloth diapers and extra terry cleaning cloths, plastic bags for the dirty stuff, and (for some reason I don’t remember) a small plastic baby food container. I think it might have had some kind of baby butt cleaning goop in it in case I couldn’t get to running water. In those days, change tables were scarce. Dryer? That’s why they made the sun.
Packed lunches – waxed paper if there was no other way, lunch boxes, and hard to clean thermoses. Candles made and remade from melted wax to save on electric lights. Melting snow for baths, dishes, hair wash when the well ran dry.
I think about it, and then I forgive myself – again. Inner balance, calm, stability has a way of spreading to the people around us. Mental health first means we have the strength and energy to create environmental health.
Back in the store, it turns out they are also all out of rubber gloves – the thin disposable ones. Something else I would never use, but recently, I’ve had a couple of allergy scares when cleaning. I don’t even use “products”. But it turns out that excessive amounts of TKO can cause me to blow up like a scarlet balloon if I touch my face. Now that constant cleaning is the way of life, and disinfectant (wonderful Benefect, for choice) is coming to stay, so are rubber gloves. I’ll have to wait on the disposable ones though, and make sure to thoroughly disinfect the yellow ones every time. It’s getting complicated.
There’s plenty of cough and cold medicine, lozenges, vitamins. Is that good news? People aren’t getting sick in droves, so there’s medicine left? I don’t know, but I buy enough to get my son through this and have some leftover. The staff are friendly and patient despite what must have been a hectic day.
I’m still unsure about how I feel. Anxiety is hanging around. I see my friends’ Facebook and Instagram posts, so I know I’m not the only one. I sit down to play some slow, simple, early music on the harp, breathe with the music, focus on heart energy flowing through my arm and into my fingers. Ah. There it is, the inner serenity, the spreading pool of golden light. That’s something I can do to – maybe -help.
I make public some of my earlier harp videos and share them with friends. I don’t know if listening to it will have anything like the effect of playing it, and my harp should be plugged in since it’s not fully acoustic, and my laptop mic and camera aren’t very good, and…
Oh. You again. Listen, anxiety, I really do appreciate your protectiveness. But I’m good, thanks.